It was Wednesday night, and it was raining outside. For the first time I felt empty and alone, seem like everyone is busy now days and never pick up or return the called.
So after failure of keeping in touch with peoples around, I just pour glass of black label for myself and start to turn on my music and continue my reading.
Looking at my CD’s collection, made me realized that so many CD’s that I haven’t had the chance to re-play or hardly played. Suddenly I felt like to listen to all those sloppy love song from my generation. From Diana Ross to Richard Max, all is about love, lost, sadness, being alone, being in love, happiness bla.... bla.... It felt like my life "soundtrack" been replay. But it's the sad soundtrack!
So after failure of keeping in touch with peoples around, I just pour glass of black label for myself and start to turn on my music and continue my reading.
Looking at my CD’s collection, made me realized that so many CD’s that I haven’t had the chance to re-play or hardly played. Suddenly I felt like to listen to all those sloppy love song from my generation. From Diana Ross to Richard Max, all is about love, lost, sadness, being alone, being in love, happiness bla.... bla.... It felt like my life "soundtrack" been replay. But it's the sad soundtrack!
Those words from the song's made me realized and hard to believe how love songs can be easily attract our ears…
So let me talked about "love" and how fast that "fallen in love" exactly took.
After listening from one CD's to another, there are two main schools of love, you either subscribe to the Phil Collins "You can't hurry love" philosophy or Take That "It only takes a minutes."
It's hard to say who's right, Collins was balder and had a man band, not a boy one, so he is more wiser. But his "give and take" sounds like advice from an elderly auntie.
Meanwhile, Take That's argument suggest the pop-star' immune system might not cope with more than one minute of passion:
“If you get a flu attack, for 30 days you're on your back, Doing not a single dance, Baby give me half a chance”
Perhaps they were commenting on life's fragility.
Anyway, neither answers could we get from that song. But how long exactly does it take to fall in love?
To my relief, academia is on the case. Dr Frank Bernieni, of Oregon State University, reckons love falling is a 30 second phenomenon. The slightly more conservative estimated from Rutgers University's Dr Helen Fisher is eight minutes. And then there's New York - based psychology professor Arthur Aron, trailing with a positively tardy 90 minutes. Forget about not hurrying love - you'll be lucky to catch up with it.
They all claim their studies prove instant love exists. "You can simply look at somebody and trigger that brain chemistry for romantic love" says Fisher, who scanned her subject' brains and found them swimming in feel good hormones, "we are animals that were built for love at first sight."
Aron agrees it's all in the first gaze. When he asked strangers to stare silently into each other eyes for four minutes, they felt attracted and connected. In fact, one couple were so love struck they married six months later.
He also recommends fear as an aphrodisiac and suggests "somewhere scary for a first date." That explains why I once fell for a man with an apartment so terrifying the cockroaches stayed away. But why don't I love the dentist? Or Marilyin Manson? Or myself, first thing in the morning? Perhaps I should have taken my credit card bill on some first date 0 it doesn't get more frightening than that.
Unless you believe Frank Benieri who says that after 30 second's love's a done deal. If that first impression is favourable, your beloved will strive to make everything he subsequently learns about you fit it.
Bernieri doesn't explain what happens when image and reality simply can't be reconciled but perhaps it's why a past encounter of mine didn't work-out. I met the man while wearing layers of shapeless items I'll charitably describe as "leisure wear" a scaffs on my neck, an unshaved face and angry, angry because I have to sit on the taxi which in normally took me 10 minutes but it took me 45 minutes to get there.
For our first date, I dressed up and the very next days, at my friend house warming party he told me that he love me. It took him less than 30 hours to fall in love, but it took me, if you want my honest answer, three months, ten dates and four sex's.
These theory are manna to peddlers of quick - fix match making. Speed-dating agencies often quote Fisher's eight-minutes rule and in her man-catching book, "Mr. Right, Right Now" agony auntie E. Jean Carroll raves about Bernieri's research, rechristened "the clicking phenomenon."
"Knock his socks off in half a minute, then relax," she says, "Because after that, it's a irrelevant."
If only it were that easy . Other professors have sobering news about instant love. The brain's love drugs, say London researchers, undermine your critical faculties, making you blind to someone's faults. An Italian study claims their effects resemble obsessive-compulsive disorder. And they wear off.
I wonder how long that takes? Perhaps only minutes, explaining why my dates keep getting shorter and shorter. Forget heartbreaks: I might more likely to suffer motion sickness......
Especially when all the song lyrics was like :
You tried your best to show me
that you really cared
said if there were days I was lonely
Just call you - you'd be there
You tried you best convinced me
that you understand
and if I needed someone to hold on to
You wanted to be the man....."
So what you reckon with this? I mean how long will take you to fall in love.... 30 second? One hour, one day, one weeks, one month, or one year.....!
Till then, I wish you the best and was my pleasure to know that you still keep reading this old man journey. Remember - don't push it, it will come naturally - I meant don't pust love...
Have a good night!
So let me talked about "love" and how fast that "fallen in love" exactly took.
After listening from one CD's to another, there are two main schools of love, you either subscribe to the Phil Collins "You can't hurry love" philosophy or Take That "It only takes a minutes."
It's hard to say who's right, Collins was balder and had a man band, not a boy one, so he is more wiser. But his "give and take" sounds like advice from an elderly auntie.
Meanwhile, Take That's argument suggest the pop-star' immune system might not cope with more than one minute of passion:
“If you get a flu attack, for 30 days you're on your back, Doing not a single dance, Baby give me half a chance”
Perhaps they were commenting on life's fragility.
Anyway, neither answers could we get from that song. But how long exactly does it take to fall in love?
To my relief, academia is on the case. Dr Frank Bernieni, of Oregon State University, reckons love falling is a 30 second phenomenon. The slightly more conservative estimated from Rutgers University's Dr Helen Fisher is eight minutes. And then there's New York - based psychology professor Arthur Aron, trailing with a positively tardy 90 minutes. Forget about not hurrying love - you'll be lucky to catch up with it.
They all claim their studies prove instant love exists. "You can simply look at somebody and trigger that brain chemistry for romantic love" says Fisher, who scanned her subject' brains and found them swimming in feel good hormones, "we are animals that were built for love at first sight."
Aron agrees it's all in the first gaze. When he asked strangers to stare silently into each other eyes for four minutes, they felt attracted and connected. In fact, one couple were so love struck they married six months later.
He also recommends fear as an aphrodisiac and suggests "somewhere scary for a first date." That explains why I once fell for a man with an apartment so terrifying the cockroaches stayed away. But why don't I love the dentist? Or Marilyin Manson? Or myself, first thing in the morning? Perhaps I should have taken my credit card bill on some first date 0 it doesn't get more frightening than that.
Unless you believe Frank Benieri who says that after 30 second's love's a done deal. If that first impression is favourable, your beloved will strive to make everything he subsequently learns about you fit it.
Bernieri doesn't explain what happens when image and reality simply can't be reconciled but perhaps it's why a past encounter of mine didn't work-out. I met the man while wearing layers of shapeless items I'll charitably describe as "leisure wear" a scaffs on my neck, an unshaved face and angry, angry because I have to sit on the taxi which in normally took me 10 minutes but it took me 45 minutes to get there.
For our first date, I dressed up and the very next days, at my friend house warming party he told me that he love me. It took him less than 30 hours to fall in love, but it took me, if you want my honest answer, three months, ten dates and four sex's.
These theory are manna to peddlers of quick - fix match making. Speed-dating agencies often quote Fisher's eight-minutes rule and in her man-catching book, "Mr. Right, Right Now" agony auntie E. Jean Carroll raves about Bernieri's research, rechristened "the clicking phenomenon."
"Knock his socks off in half a minute, then relax," she says, "Because after that, it's a irrelevant."
If only it were that easy . Other professors have sobering news about instant love. The brain's love drugs, say London researchers, undermine your critical faculties, making you blind to someone's faults. An Italian study claims their effects resemble obsessive-compulsive disorder. And they wear off.
I wonder how long that takes? Perhaps only minutes, explaining why my dates keep getting shorter and shorter. Forget heartbreaks: I might more likely to suffer motion sickness......
Especially when all the song lyrics was like :
You tried your best to show me
that you really cared
said if there were days I was lonely
Just call you - you'd be there
You tried you best convinced me
that you understand
and if I needed someone to hold on to
You wanted to be the man....."
So what you reckon with this? I mean how long will take you to fall in love.... 30 second? One hour, one day, one weeks, one month, or one year.....!
Till then, I wish you the best and was my pleasure to know that you still keep reading this old man journey. Remember - don't push it, it will come naturally - I meant don't pust love...
Have a good night!
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