Can we still be friends with Mr.X?

When someone says, 'We're just a good friend.' You can be sure of one thing. The alleged friends are lover, ex-lover or bittersweet enemies.

Friends, as it traditionally defined, is not in the equation. You don't date your 'good friend' nor do you sleep with them. So how come we sometimes refer to past lover so fondly disregarding the fact it's not true?

Can you really be friends with your ex?

The expression 'good friend,'

My friends Billy explain: "Is like wearing a jumper tied around your waist. It draws attention to the very thing you're trying to conceal, your butt. Same goes for using the 'We're still good friend' break-up. You're trying to fool yourself into believing you can be completely grown up and civil about a break up. The fact is most of us can't be!"

When famous people split, they're always 'good friends' afterwards - Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt, Prince Andrew and Fergie, Jerry Hall and Mick Jagger.

If they're such good friends, why aren't they still together?

My friend Daniel is the type of guy who going out parties with half of them is his "really good friends."

"If break-up is amicable then why can't you continue to be good friends" He says,

"I mean, part of the reason you got together was because you shared a great friendship."

"Why end it just because you realized you weren't mean for each other?"

Daniel is a rare master of the healthy break-up: he dates, ends it nicely and then manages to continue a purely platonic friendship. But if a normal friendship can get tricky and complicated, surely good friends who've slept together can become mega complicated?

When you date someone, you put yourself in an emotionally vulnerbale situation with major risk of being hurt.

So, if it does end and you pursue a friendship, things such as sexual tension, jealousy, and over protectiveness can prevent you enjoying a normal and supportive friendship.

"Once you cross the line and sleep with someone, you can't go back even if you started out as friends." Billy says.

You will never have a true friendship with your ex. Mostly because you're both still thinking underneath, 'why didn't you want me?' So if straight men think it's difficult to be friends with their exes, what do the gay guys think?

Daniel, who has attempted to hang on to a few friends as a 'good friends' as far more ambivalent about the situations.

I am sure it's possible to have an 'Elaine and Jerry from the Seinfield' type of friendship - two people who realized they were far better off gossiping about their relationship with other instead of being together, but it's never really that simple.

To me, personally, there's no such thing as a mutual break-up. There's always one person who is usually the heartbreaker, while the other hurts for longer.

I, who has been thrown an olive branch "Just be friends break-up" on numerous occasions is Adam a gay men can't, and should never be friends.

"I don't need anymore 'good friends,."

Why do I need an ex to string me on with a fake friendship?

I am sorry, but we, as a gay men are from different planets.

"Can we be a good friends?" Yeah right!...

So, my dear friends, let me know how many of you still put your exes in the 'good friends' list? share with me here, I love to hear some story....

Till then, it's hot outside, the heat really got into my skin, I guess, it's time for me to jump into the pool for few laps and cold me down.....

Have a lovely day.........