They have ticked the attraction box, the personality box, and sharing of similar interests but what happens if they don’t pass the ‘same sex drive’ box? Finding someone that ticks all the boxes is hard enough, so can a relationship work when one person has a libido set to maximum threshold yet the other’s is at the bottom of the scale?
After a boys’ night out this week, I’m beginning to think boys just want to have fun and unfortunately some boy are failing to keep up. It’s the usual story, when a relationship kicks off the guy can’t get enough but once into the grove the pattern starts to take a turn. That is, the daily routine starts to become weekly, and God forbid, monthly.
After a boys’ night out this week, I’m beginning to think boys just want to have fun and unfortunately some boy are failing to keep up. It’s the usual story, when a relationship kicks off the guy can’t get enough but once into the grove the pattern starts to take a turn. That is, the daily routine starts to become weekly, and God forbid, monthly.
I admit to breaking up with someone because our libidos didn’t quite lead to as many 'O’s' as I had wished for. My relationship with this particular ex started off perfectly. He ticked all the boxes and our attraction was so strong we simply couldn’t tear ourselves apart. However, as time progressed so did my concerns with the lack of nocturnal activity.
Six months into our relationship and sick of having my advances ignored, I voiced my concerns that perhaps we weren’t so perfect after all. In full fledge defence mode, he argued that there is such a thing as ‘too much sex’ and that nightly sex is not ‘normal’. All I could say was, ‘well my normal is obviously not your normal!’ And that was it, six months wasted but at least I learned the importance of addressing issues as they arise.
Now although some people simply have a different point of view on how often is ‘normal’, others simply have external forces making them regularly not up for the occasion. Yes, this is all those men out there with physically demanding jobs. Perhaps being literally too exhausted and physically incapable are legitimate reasons to be excused. So how does one satisfy their needs in such a situation?
A friend of mine faced with this precise dilemma recently deployed the ‘am’ trick as a last effort to save their relationship. He began to set his alarm ten minutes earlier each day ready to pounce as his man awoke, refreshed and ready for a little pre-work activity. They are now the happiest they have been in a long while.
On the flipside there are some relationships where tricks can't help but rather a little reminder and motivation will do wonders. I’m talking about those couples out there, who after years in the one relationship, simply forget how wonderful sex is. While the sudden urge to run to the bedroom at the drop of a hat may have gone, it's certain that once there you'll be back to pure bliss.
Luckily for me, at this point in time I’m in a happy state of equilibrium. Should things change, rest assured I’ll speak my mind!
On the flipside there are some relationships where tricks can't help but rather a little reminder and motivation will do wonders. I’m talking about those couples out there, who after years in the one relationship, simply forget how wonderful sex is. While the sudden urge to run to the bedroom at the drop of a hat may have gone, it's certain that once there you'll be back to pure bliss.
Luckily for me, at this point in time I’m in a happy state of equilibrium. Should things change, rest assured I’ll speak my mind!
Till then, I guess, at my age now. I am pretty much getting what I want....
And ENJOYED every moments.
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