It all sounds so easy: Boy meets boy at the party, they fall in love, and live happily ever after. But anyone who’s been on the dating scene for more than a millisecond knows that it’s not that easy—not by a long shot.
Finding and maintaining a successful relationship often takes a little luck, more than a little patience, and a lot of work. What else does it take for a romantic partnership to go the long haul?
For the specifics, I sat down with two successful gay couples to explore what exactly keeps their bond strong.
Feel free to take notes!
Rob, 47, a publishing executive from local magazine, and Kevin, 46, a marketing and promotions Manager from well known company in Kuala Lumpur together for 10 years
Timothy, 51, a financial analyst from One of the biggest foreign bank in town, and Adam, 49, an accountant from audit firm in Kuala Lumpur together for 8 years
Rob, 47, a publishing executive from local magazine, and Kevin, 46, a marketing and promotions Manager from well known company in Kuala Lumpur together for 10 years
Timothy, 51, a financial analyst from One of the biggest foreign bank in town, and Adam, 49, an accountant from audit firm in Kuala Lumpur together for 8 years
Q: What surprised you the most about being in a long-term relationship?
Adam: I once thought being in a long-term relationship meant a lot of sacrifice on my part with little return from my partner. With Timothy, it is a give-and-take situation. He is very giving and kind and doesn’t make a big deal out of doing things for me. We just do things for each other naturally, because we want to.
Rob: Challenges can strengthen a relationship as long as you stick together. Our fortunes have been everything from fantastic to downright terrible, but facing the tough times together has made us much closer.
Q: When did you know that your significant other was a “keeper”?
Adam: Timothy took me to dinner for my birthday right before we started dating. We were very close friends at that point. My previous boyfriends had virtually ignored that day when I was with them. Timothy went so far as to surprise me by taking me to my favorite restaurant and making it a fun night. It was very special for me.
Adam: I once thought being in a long-term relationship meant a lot of sacrifice on my part with little return from my partner. With Timothy, it is a give-and-take situation. He is very giving and kind and doesn’t make a big deal out of doing things for me. We just do things for each other naturally, because we want to.
Rob: Challenges can strengthen a relationship as long as you stick together. Our fortunes have been everything from fantastic to downright terrible, but facing the tough times together has made us much closer.
Q: When did you know that your significant other was a “keeper”?
Adam: Timothy took me to dinner for my birthday right before we started dating. We were very close friends at that point. My previous boyfriends had virtually ignored that day when I was with them. Timothy went so far as to surprise me by taking me to my favorite restaurant and making it a fun night. It was very special for me.
Q: What’s your secret to keeping a long-term romance fresh?
Timothy: It’s difficult because we fall quickly into a groove in terms of restaurants we eat at, entertainment on a Saturday night, and day-to-day life. The main way we keep things fresh is by traveling. This pulls us out of our mundane routine the most.
Adam: It’s also important to have sex regularly to keep the intimacy alive.
Ouch...........!
You hear that buddy???????
Till then
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