Why HE didn't call after a great first date....?

When it doesn't happen, it hits me like a car wreck.

I am talking about a guy not calling. Not texting. Not using the number he (emphasis on HE) asked for when we met and made magic like Gin and Tonic.

I got some insider tips from few friends of mine over happy hour on Friday night. It was really sad to say this: I had been through so many date’s that ‘really great date’ and end up with 'great sex,' and made hundred of plans about what are we going to do the next day when we meet up again. But then when he left and out from my door, I never heard from him again, even we'd make a plan to meet up for dinner the next day. He leave me wonder, because he never call me back nor do he return my text.

So, this is what some of my friends had to say during our boys night out:

Our initial outing went off without a hitch. We laughed together, the conversation never faltered, and we seemed to be developing a growing bond. We like you - just not like that.

That "friend" feeling you've had toward amazing guys?

We get it for men too. Calling would mean confronting you honestly about these feelings-fairly heavy conversation after just one date. Instead, we tell ourselves the most humane thing to do is go completely dark.

We are dating more than one person. We're in the midst of a delicate balancing act and seeing how it goes with our other someone before digging in for a second date with you. We're trying to have, and eat, our cake. We've got frosting all over our faces.

We are still planning to call, maybe in a week. Why the delay? We're establishing our independence by managing expectations right at the start. Even though we had fun, we're not going to be calling every other day and seeing each other multiple times a week. We need space - and are telling you that from the outset.

When You Should Call: This is trickier-if the "we should really do this again" boilerplate felt like a genuine sentiment, go for it (after giving him a few days - say, four - to call you). But again, we can't stress this enough: When a guy is interested after a date, he'll always call.

To me:

These seem like VALID explanations, except for the one about dating multiple people with the analogy of frosting and Cake. Whats that about? So then what happens when you meet someone out and they ask you for your phone number and never call. Or when they ask one of your friends for your phone number and never call???

Just don't ask if your not going to!!!

And again:

I have often felt pressured to call. If this happens, I'm likely to NOT call. Man, just enjoy yourself. Have fun. One of the cruel ironies of life is we tend to want someone who seems harder to get, if it seems too easy, I'll asking myself "what's wrong with me?"..... Make him work for it, if he likes you and is brave enough, he will pursue you.

Isn't that the kind of man you all want?

Till then, thinks of those can make me felt sick with the game.....