What gay man want in their partner...Or it's just me dreaming?

What men want in his partner/boyfriend? At least for me

No such thing as a straight stick ...Or are gay men too picky?

When Jane Austen wrote it was "a truth universally acknowledged that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a partner", she was writing,

Even then, with irony. Two centuries on, the very term "partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, COMPANION, and, wife or relationships", let alone the idea that a man may be looking for one, seems almost quaint. With the C word comes connotations of aprons, obedience and gossip over the back fence, not to mention unflattering variants like fishwife, housewife, partnership and trouble 'n' strife.

But while the C word may seem archaic, partner and mistress remains hugely popular. Most men still choose for partnership as well companionship and in hetro life they choose to be married instead of keeping one mistress, even though they do so later in life than previous generations. So what do they look for when they choose a partner, wife or even mistress? A best friend, a sexpot, a maternal figure or a trophy?

Do their true desires bear any resemblance to what women think men want? The answers are as varied as men themselves.

In my small journal, I wrote a list. A list of the 28 things I seeks in a man.

From integrity, charm and sophistication to perspective, good skin and enthusiasm. Further down the list comes culinary skills, musical appreciation and, finally, good heart.

"Every man I go to bed with, ever, I'm thinking whether he'd make a good partner,"

I had other thoughts on my ideal partner, beyond the list I keeps in my ‘make-it-happend list’.

For a start, there is the matter of how he balances work and domestic. It’s fine with the idea of a partner with a career, so long as he stays home at night. "A man's with financial independence is emasculating - for me - but you have to deal with it."

Physical appearance is a factor, too, though less important to me than it once was. "It used to be all about the look when I was younger,"

"It was, 'I want him to be hot; I want all my friends to want him.'"

I would also prefer a man who is not from the same black-ground as me – as my previous boyfriends was Scottish, New Zealander and Australian but my current ‘date’ is Chinese.

"I have for years not wanted a local based man because, unfortunately, I find Malaysian like a village,"

"Reputation follows you around." He doesn't want to walk into a party with his boyfriend, knowing five of his friends have already dated him.

And he doesn't want the kind of man who is always nattering away to old school friends about ancient teenage gossip. "I want something a bit exotic, something no one else has got their hands on."

Oh, yes, and one more thing - "Ball breaking must be kept to a minimum.”

"I mean, really, if a guy does everything you want, he shows you affection, why break his balls?"

And they say I am very picky

"My expectations have been crushed every time because men do not conform to my ideas of what is perfect and, for a lot of guys, it is a search for perfection.” Does that make me ‘asking too much?’

I remember, one of my friend give some advice years ago: "You're walking through a forest looking for a straight stick, but you're going to come through the other side empty-handed because there is no such thing as a straight stick."

And my friend recently urged me to get on with it, prodding me about relationship. He pointed to his hairline, then his waist, before telling me, "You're going off. Find a boyfriend, quickly."

"Sometimes the worst thing that can happend is having successful role models in my group for relationships, because what you find doesn't match up, and you feel disillusioned,"

I always letting him know this relationship will not necessarily last forever. We're always having it banged into us to have a Plan B.

Don't all of us had that 'plan B' thing in our life? Cos, my plan B is going to be practice very soon.....

Till then, hope you still enjoying reading my page here....