Most men would agree that sex is a good thing (except when it's not, but that's another article). We like it. We crave it. We think about it quite a lot of the time.
So we really don't need another reason to have sex. The very squelchy, touchy, lovely-ness of it is enough for us. We need no more encouragement.
That's not always the case with the people we want to have sex with though. Sometimes, we want sex and they don't. Sometimes we really want sex and they want to watch Grey's Anatomy.
Sometimes, having a spare 10 minutes and nothing better to do is just not a good enough reason for our so-called "better" halves to head straight for the boudoir shedding clothes as they go.
If you find yourself in that situation, don't beg or plead, because it's undignified. Just tell them this: "If you want me to live for a long time (and let's assume for our purposes here that you do), you have to have sex with me a lot. It's a scientific fact."
And really, it is. Because not only is sex good fun, it's also really good for us. And the health benefits of a bunk up are, if anything, even more marked for men.
So next time your boyfriend brushes aside your amorous advances, remind him that it may be a matter of life and death. Here's all the information you need.
Sex for life - Don't think for a second we're suggesting you lie to your boyfriend or partner about the benefits of sex, because quite frankly you don't need to. The evidence is pretty clear.
Take, for example, a study by researchers at Queen's University in Belfast, one of the most rigorous studies ever carried out on health and sex in men. The study tracked the mortality of about 1,000 middle-aged men over the course of a decade.
The results were unequivocal. The men who enjoyed the highest frequency of orgasms had half the death rate of those for whom episodes of sexual ecstasy were few and far between.
These may have been middle-aged men, but sexual patterns are often set in earlier decades. The more sex you have now — assuming you practise safe sex — the better off you'll be in a few years' time.
We heart sex - Then the researchers decided to do a follow-on from the original study and concentrate on cardiovascular health alone.
Again, the results were clear. Healthy men who have sex three or more times a week can reduce their risk of heart attack or stroke by half.
So if he's unimpressed when you ask him for a quickie before watching the DVD, explain that it's all part of your very keen desire to grow old with him. They love that sort of stuff.
Heavenly bodies - Maybe you've put on a few pounds. Maybe you're not the sprightly young thing he was first attracted to. Maybe you've let yourself go. Well, if that's his excuse, tell him the best way to get you back the way he wants you is, by happy coincidence, to have more sex.
OK, having sex is not going to burn off as many calories as going for a run, but that hasn't stopped Men's Health magazine calling the bed the greatest piece of exercise equipment ever invented.
And that's because sex does burn calories — a vigorous session can knock off 200 of the blighters — and unlike running it's not something you'll put off every time you feel a tiny twinge in your big toe.
In other words, you don't need to motivate yourself to cuddle up in a nice warm bed in the same way you do to pound the rain-lashed streets. And there's more. Sex works muscles in your buttocks, pelvis, thighs and arms, and raises your pulse rate to the level of an elite athlete training his socks off.
So you can imitate Usain Bolt, at least in the bedroom.
Get prostrate for your prostate - You might not worry about your prostate now — heck, you might not even know you've got one — but you might in a few years' time. Prostate cancer is the most common cancer in men.
With that in mind, some urologists believe that one of the best ways to ward off prostate cancer is to 'flush out' the prostate at regular intervals. And would you believe it, the best way to flush it out is by frequent ejaculation.
The sooner you start, the better. A study published in the British Journal of Urology International said that men in their 20s can reduce by a third their chance of getting pro state cancer by ejaculating more than five times a week.
And there's more...
If he's still not convinced that you absolutely must have regular sex for the sake of your health, a better tack might be to tell him that you absolutely must have regular sex for the sake of his.
You can mention that sex improves pain relief for both of you, boosts both your immune systems, improves his bladder control and can reduce his chances of depression.
So there you have it. You can tempt him into bed with your raw sexuality, or romantic gestures, or by plying him with alcohol.
And if all else fails you can tell him that if you don't have sex right this very second (in a variety of positions and possibly involving handcuffs) you might not make it through the night.
How could he possibly refuse?
Till then
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