In all relationships, coming from a place of truth and love will deliver the joy you seek. But how often do we come from a place of withholding and fear and consequently get into strife..
Of course withholding through fear can be a valid choice but the question you need to ask yourself is: "Does coming from this place allow me to be the person I want to be and is it giving me the relationships I want?" If it is, then fantastic. If it's not, then maybe you might like to try another way. Consider coming from a place of love rather than fear or one based on truth rather than withholding or deceit.
For some, Hari Raya, Chinese New Year, Christmas or Deepavali is a time of stress because social conditioning demands we make it a "family" time. I hear people talk about how awful it is to go "home" because of the tension that arises around their families not accepting them for who they really are, besically for not accepting their truth.
We cannot control other people, we can only control ourselves. So, when you see them, forget about them accepting you and instead turn your attention inward. Put your focus and energy on showing up whom you truly are, being your true and loving self and not the person you think they expect you to be.
If you enter a situation with a mindset of fear, such as, "here we go again, I wonder what they will / won't say this time?" then that is what you will most probably end up with. But if you are thinking from a place of love, a place of self-love, like, "well whatever they think of me is up to them. I love who I am and no amount of unacceptance is going to ruin my time here, because I love and accept myself." You will be surprised at the difference in your experience.
The following is a simple, but somewhat challenging process to action, designed to strengthen you as a powerful individual in any relationship.
Step one: Know your truth. Know who you really are and who you want to be. Thinking of three qualities or values that describe the person you want to be is often a good way to build a reference point for you to base your choice on. Do you want to be calm, accepting, creative, loving, honest, communicative, sharing? Decide for yourself who you want to be.
Step two: Go about expressing those qualities in everything you do. Choose to express your truth with love as best as you can. Ask yourself the question: "What is the most loving espression of whom I choose to be?" Listen to the answer and the action is as best as you are able. The outcome then doesn't matter, as you know you have been the best you possibly could be.
With so much hype about what's happening around this time of year, you should gift yourself with the true and loving espression of who you really are. You and all of your relationships will benefit from the joy it creates.....
So, my dear friend, I hope you enjoying your 'Merdeka Day' and 'Hari Raya' holiday with your family and with the love one. And Happy holidays season...........
It could be great if you could tell me all about the drunken night, or the drunken orgie you had during the loooong break, either with your rainy Hari Raya or dry Hari Raya.
I'll be in Combodia from next week till the 13rd. So my dear friends, please keep some 'ketupat and lemang' for me eh!!
Till then, have a lovely, naughty 'Merdeka Day, and 'Hari Raya' holiday, will catch up again once am back from Cambodia....
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