Dealing with loneliness....

There are times when I’m overwhelmed with feelings of loneliness.

Even if I’ve been on some dates, overall I still feel very alone.

I don't think that am the only one feeling this way. In fact, many single people feel lonely as they search for partners.

'You can feel lonely when you are by yourself and have no one to connect with or when you are with others who are emotionally unavailable,' explains Rosalene Glickman, author of Optimal Thinking: How to Be Your Best Self.

To deal with your feelings effectively, I always asking myself a few question:


- What am I thinking or doing to create these feelings of loneliness?

- What is the best way to reach out and connect with a specific person/people today?

- What are the most loving actions I can take for another person/others today?


I use my list as a plan of action. Learn to avoid behaviours or thoughts that create or exacerbate my loneliness. Engage in the positive activities, and they’ll keep me moving forward instead of wallowing.

There are other ways to keep loneliness in check, such as:

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- Engage friends.

'The best way I know to beat the lonelies is to hang out with my close friends,' says Dave, friend of mine.

'Spending time with my buddies always makes me feel like I’m a part of a team. We help each other out.'

As for me, I always enjoy the sun, pool, reading and writing. Everytimes, I felt lonely, I'll jump into the pool, doing my laps and laying down with my book, and I'll never felt alone, water always made me forgotten outside world..

Have fun.

'People don’t knock on our doors to find us, but they will spot us if we’re doing what we love,'

'We’ll be surrounded by people who are interesting and interested in us. A person doing what he or she loves is someone everyone wants to meet. Your future beloved will find you fascinating because you will find your life fascinating.'

Write it down.

'When I start feeling lonely, and if the weather is not good for pool-site, I get my laptop out and start to write my journal and start writing.'

'It helps me process my thoughts, follow my progress and plan for the future. Getting those feelings out of my system makes them go away faster.'

There’s also relief to be found in prayer.

'During prayer, an optimal connection is initiated with the ultimate cosmic source,' Dean, one of my Catolic friend says.

'This powerful connection provides the religious person with an optimal venue to vent painful feelings, reflect on personal needs, and ask for them to be fulfilled.'

Here’s another way to look at it:

'Prayer is wonderful because it will remind you of what you already know and possess,' says Dean again, 'that God loves you the way you are and that you are never alone' — which may be just the kind of comfort you need when those lonely moments come over you

Till then, hope this will help some of us.........

have a lovely day........ am going to the pool soon, it's a beautiful sunny day... I guess, am kind of lonely today, so pool is the answer.............. enjoy....

Moving in together with your man............!

If you planning to moving in with your man, let have a look for those below:-


1- Don’t forget that your relationship needs quality time and nurturing which can often be neglected when you live together because you see each other the whole time. You need to remember to bond and continue nurturing your relationship like you did before you moved in together. And bonding doesn’t involve sitting in front of the television eating dinner.


2- Moving in together can be the natural progression for some in a relationship in steps in taking things further. There are of course positives and negatives to cohabitation. While you may be excited about the prospect of living together, remember that things aren’t always easy and hurdles or petty annoyances always pop up. However, there are things that you can both do that will make the change an easy one. If you’re planning on taking the plunge and moving in together, here are some things to think about and tips to help make that transition smooth.


3- Be aware that conflicting ideas of how things should be done will arise and people always think their way is the best way. It could be even the most mundane such as how often the laundry should be done, or leaving the loo seat up. Things will slowly emerge and you both need to agree on how to deal with them.


4- Make sure that you continue to communicate with each other, as it is always key in any relationship. Of course you will talk, but make sure you talk about any concerns, worries, feelings or things that are bothering or annoy you both. Moving in together will change the nature of your relationship, either for the better or for the worse, but the more you communicate, the less they will turn into issues and problems.


5- That said it is also important to have your own time away from each other as things can sometimes become suffocating. Everyone needs alone time and personal space every now and again as you don’t need to be around each other every spare moment. It is also important not to neglect friendships


6- Try to avoid setting rules on things you do and don’t like or how things should be done as this will invariably lead to arguments and more often than not it comes across as hostile and a little threatening. Surely if you are planning to live together you know each other well enough and trust that they live in a way similar to you


7- Make sure that you share the housework because if only one of you does it resentment will grow and you’ll soon be sick of picking up and tidying after someone else. Don’t let someone else’s bad housekeeping abilities affect your expectations. That is of course unless you have a maid on a daily basis.



8- Try to avoid your relationship getting caught in a rut. It is an easy thing to do as a cycle of going to work, coming back, eating and watching TV develops. Make sure you go out, whether it is to see a film, catch up with mutual friends or for a meal.


9- If you are in any doubt or there are certain things that you aren’t happy about in your relationship, then moving in together won’t help. Moving in together won’t solve any problems the relationship has, so you may want to hang onto the room in your parents’ home and work the problems out before you make such a big decision.


Till then, good luck with your moving in into your new partner place...

Have a lovely weekend